Books on Parenting

Parenting the Hurt Child: Helping Adoptive Families Heal and Grow by Gregory Keck and Regina Kupecky See the book HERE

Why we like it – I (Liz) read this with my husband before our first foster kiddo entered the home. It honestly changed our parenting perspective and set us on the trajectory of parenting that we are now. We are grateful we had this on our bookshelf and highly recommend it!

The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family by Karen Purvis and David Cross See the book HERE

Why we like it – This book is great for before your kiddo comes home AND to read after, when you know them and can see their little personhood in front of you. It’s great for chapter by chapter practicality and has great focus on true connection with your kiddo. Often when current adoptive parents name a book instrumental in their journey…it’s this one!

The Connected Parent: Real Life Strategies for Building Trust and Attachment by Karen Purvis and Lisa Qualls  See the book HERE

Why we like it – Anything by Karen Purvis is amazing. Really, you can’t go wrong.  We like this book because it’s practical AND hopeful.

The Great Behavior Breakdown by Bryan Post  See the book HERE

Why we like it – Behaviors can be TOUGH. We like this recommendation from Rosie Mann (see Episode 003) and like how it describes how to be responsive and not reactive.

Securely Attached: How Understanding Childhood Trauma Will Transform Your Parenting by Mike and Kristin Berry See the book HERE

Why we like it – I (Liz) had the privilege of being on the book launch team for this book and got a sneak preview before it launched this year. True story, I would read a chapter and then reread it out loud to my husband and say “this happened yesterday” or “this is what’s happening right now!”. Relevant and practical but told through story. A great book for an adoptive or foster mama!

The Post Adoption Blues: Overcoming the Unforeseen Challenges of Adoption by Karen J. Foli and John R. Thompson See the book HERE

Why we like it – I (Sarah) didn’t know post-adoption blues was even a “thing” until I read this book. It was one of those “ugh, I have to read this” for our first home study. Let me tell you, it was one of the best most informative reads and I am so grateful that it was part of our pre-adoption work. We don’t know what we don’t know, and this book is one we definitely need to have in our tool belt.

Parenting: 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family by Paul David Tripp See the book HERE

Why we like it – This book will rock your parenting world. I (Sarah) am a fan of anything by Paul David Tripp, and this book was no exception. No matter your stage or circumstances, the truth in these gospel principles for parenting will challenge, encourage and inspire this life long journey we’re on as parents.

Books on the Brain

The Whole Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind by Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson  See the book HERE.

Why we like itLet’s be real. Dr. Dan Siegel is legit. This book gives really great language for you as the parent to understand the brain and be able to articulate it to your spouse, other caregivers, and even your kids. You can walk away with a better understanding of behaviors you’re seeing every day.

The YES Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child by Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson See the book HERE

Why we like it – Keep the Dr. Dan books coming! This book gives parents practical strategies to balance your kiddo’s psychology, build self-awareness, and guide a kiddo to curiosity and resilience and away from emotional reactivity.

Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Dan Siegel See the book HERE

Why we like it – This book talks all about how brain development impacts teenagers’ behavior and relationships. While we haven’t personally walked this journey yet, we love how Dr. Dan Siegel articulates the brain and this is on our shelf for a quick grab when the time comes.

The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired by Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson See the book HERE

Why we like it – Wow where to start? With adoption in particular, we need to be hyper-cognizant of attachment and bonding when parenting. This is a powerful book that helps guide the parent to cultivate a kiddo’s emotions.

Self Reg: How to Help Your Child (and you) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life by Dr. Stuart Shanker See the book HERE

Why we like it – Self regulation is crucial, an important skill to learn. Often our kiddos need help learning how to do this, with and without help. With the right understanding, self-regulation can be the key to improving so many aspects of your kiddo’s life… potential for huge impact!

Books About Adoption for Your Kiddos

Baby Owl Lost Her Whoo by Cindy R Lee See the book HERE

Happy Adoption Day by John McCutcheon See the book HERE

God Found Us You by Lisa Tawn Bergren See the book HERE

God Gave Us Family by Lisa Tawn Bergren See the book HERE

A Mother for Choco by Keiko Kasza See the book HERE

Discovering Me – A Journey Book About Adoption by Betsy Trainor See the book HERE

Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born See the book HERE

Just Really Good Books

The Eye of Adoption: The True Story of My Turbulent Wait for a Baby by Jodi Cantrell Dyer See the book HERE

My Breakfast with Jesus by Tina Cho See the book HERE

Maybe God is Like That Too by Jennifer Grant See the book HERE

The Redo Roo by Cindy R Lee See the book HERE

Doggy Doesn’t Know No by Cindy R Lee See the book HERE

When Charley met Emma by Amy Webb See the book HERE

When God Made You by Matthew Paul Turner See the book HERE